A memo to younger folks.
At this time of year, it can be hard for those of us who are older. Hard to get into the swing of things, to be as enthusiastic and into events as you may want. It can be easy to become frustrated, or even angry, about how we are behaving. Equally and especially for those of us who belong to marginalised groups, whether we know it, or not, we can often put on a good front, our best mask, that hides the hurt and discomfort we actually feel and perhaps, when we are at our limit, when we have pushed ourselves beyond endurance, you may get a glimpse beneath that mask and be disappointed.
It's a time to be especially gentle with us. Remember that this is a season relentlessly pushed as a time for family and friends to get together. That it is all about belonging and the joy that comes from that. For some of us, true belonging is the last thing we have ever felt, all our long lives and this time of year makes us only too painfully aware of that. Also, as we get older, for far too many of us, the table around which we would sit, to cherish and celebrate the people in our lives, has far more empty, than filled seats in it and that is important to remember.
In so many ways, the trauma that this time of year represents can not be underestimated. It is not easy, it is not kind to us. So, if we are less than what you might want, or fail somehow the expectations that you might have, please bear this in mind and be kind to us.
Please boost and pass this on.
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