I realize that with my slightly increasing (and still quite sizeable) gap between my age and the average age of socmed users it's largely a me problem, but in my experience, both Threads and Bluesky are just... lame.
Maybe I'm too old and lame for them myself but it surely feels so.
Like at least 85% it's a me problem because I also feel a general disconnect with my feed here too, but yeah.
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@reinesis I feel you on this. I think Masto is where I landed and stuck because it fits me the most. I gave Bluesky a check, I post there once a month and get 2 and a half interactions if it's a good day. Threads I never bothered claiming my account.
Wouldn't say it's an age thing, maybe more of a personality thing? Because I see plenty of folks well in their 50s posting in full twitter-mode daily. I try to word it right, because I don't look down on it, but I've concluded for myself that generally I'm just not a social media person. I lurk and keep up with the handful of people I find interesting, mindlessly scroll instagram a bit. But apart from posting the occasional cat picture, random thought, and lengthy blog post that I wanna get out of my system I don't really get the urge to actively participate in whatever is going on much.
tl;dr, yeah it's a me thing too XD
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@fringemagnet guess it's got something to do with some innate sociability which I think I never had.
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@reinesis Yeah, I think it's also pretty much got to do with what kind of social interaction one finds draining or enjoyable.
I'm way more likely to open up in a one-on-one convo over drinks rather than online, I know folks who are introverted but feel way more comfortable on social media than IRL.
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@fringemagnet yup! The amount of things to talk about one on one is always higher than things you could scream about into a web service. And you get an actual feedback too.
Gosh I start to sound like I'm about to switch to a flip phone.
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@reinesis No but seriously! π
It's true though, even conversation through messaging with friends who live on the other side of the planet feels more substantial. I think the possibility of some rando popping up and having an opinion about something that hits a nerve definitely plays a part. I absolutely would be a bit more active if this place offered the option to limit who can reply to posts.
Still, guess I'm secretly a grumpy 95-year-old on the inside and I don't really get the socialz. XD
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@fringemagnet I suppose we both fit the description xD
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@reinesis It's not us, it's the kids these days with their dunking quote-posts, and daily social media usage. I mean, why overshare online by screaming into the void when you can sulk, dissociate, and watch old films instead. The much healthier approach.
(To anyone maybe stumbling upon this: this post contains sarcasm and self-deprecation, please do not take it too seriously. Or do, if you can relate, solidarity and high-fives to you!)
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@fringemagnet exactly. And also making wide round eyes and go "why would I need therapy?"
But in all honesty, oversharing and constant presence only adds to usual generation gap here. Also kinda funny when a person posting once every 3-4 hours (regardless of their age) accuses anyone else of being "terminally online".
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@reinesis hahaha seriously tho! XD
But for real, I think it's both a generational thing and a personality thing as well. I legit feel happy for anyone who derives joy from social media interactions, especially if sharing stuff helps them mentally in some way. But with how difficult it is for me to render myself vulnerable, it takes significant effort to expose myself in any way, so stepping out of that comfort zone is something I reserve for friends or the very rare occasion where I feel that the person/situation is worth it.
Regarding the "terminally online" thing, I've come to realise that people just use the term for anyone who is a little bit more online than they are, which is clearly the optimal level of online to be. XD
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@fringemagnet I guess I'm just dull kind of "old" then. I don't mind being such, honestly...
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@reinesis I mean, you are neither dull nor old, but I'm very here for the not minding thing. Honestly, just saying "this ain't for me" is reason enough. Just for social media, because the frequent posters naturally stand out, it's easy to think that you are the odd one out and feel like you don't belong. But lots of folks just use it differently.
Sometimes you just gotta say "this is how I enjoy using my platform, and that's that".
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@fringemagnet basically yes. I enjoy the platform in terms of a handful of social connections I want to maintain but if I have a backup option of reaching these same people via messengers I can drop the socmed in an instant.
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@reinesis Yeah, I'm absolutely on the same page. I mean, the easiest way to reach me at any point during the day is via direct message (unless for some reason you DM me on Bluesky instead of Masto, messenger, or Instagram, but even that I will see within 24h if the notification pops up), so it's how I keep in touch with most friends who live abroad, and if you live close let's hang out and chill. I guess it boils down to how someone likes to get their social fix. XD
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