Literally everyone I know is dealing with hard things right now.
Some of those things are clearly visible, and some of them, not so much.
Big things, small things—it’s not my place to say. Because what may feel big to one person may feel really small to someone else.
But every single day I remind myself that it’s not my job to judge how someone else’s hard things compare to my hard things.
Because in all likelihood, I don’t know their story.
And even if I do?
Never in the history of the world has it ever been helpful to say to anyone,
“You could have it so much worse.”
“Think about all the good things you have going for you!”
“Why are you being so negative?”
Don’t 👏 minimize 👏 someone 👏 else’s 👏 hard.
Period.
Just don’t.
Try instead to think about why it may feel so hard to them. Are there pieces of the puzzle you’re missing? Are they fighting a battle you know absolutely nothing about? Is it possible they don’t have the resources and support they need to adequately and constructively deal with it?
If the answer to any of those questions could possibly be “Yes,” then maybe it’s time to extend some grace.
Even better, extend some kindness.
And if you can’t be gracious, or kind, or supportive, or empathetic, or simply neutral?
Maybe just don’t say anything at all.
Take some space if you need it.
But don’t minimize someone’s hard stuff.
Because chances are, someday you’ll want someone to be there through yours.
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