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Written by Dawn Chloe (Injection Arc) on 2025-01-21 at 15:15

so my weekend consisted of:

Friday - being informed that my wife is no longer interested in any sexual activity, in any form, due to menopause. Intimacy is just not important to her any more.

Saturday - being informed that my transition is “too hard” for her to really process. She’s going along with it because she knows I’ll die before detransitioning, and she prefers me alive.

Sunday - serious discussions about the future of our relationship, and what it means to us, how we move forward to ensure each of our needs are met, etc. without losing each other.

Just a ton of emotions, a lot of crying, and a lot of open honest communication. It was hard. The hardest weekend I can remember.

Topped off with y’know, all the fascism yesterday and what THAT means for us.

I’m exhausted. It’s 21 January 2025 and despite all of this I’m…hopeful(?). I dunno. What difference does it make if I die in a fascist regime if living means to exist without pleasure and intimacy? I’m lonely, I’m hurting, and I don’t know what I’m going to do. But the only way out of a pit is to start climbing, and the only way out of Hell is through. No one - NO ONE - is coming to save me.

I choose hope and I’m going to fight for it.

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Written by Delphine is doing hir best on 2025-01-21 at 16:12

@Dawn that's a brutal sequence, I'm so sorry :trans_heart:

if you want to hear from someone who was in similar circumstances and botched it badly, if only as a warning of how not to handle it, I can share my experiences. It's not a hopeful story nor one with a happy ending but it might help you avoid some of the errors I made

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Written by Delphine is doing hir best on 2025-01-21 at 16:14

@Dawn and this is not me presuming that you would make any of the mistakes that I made, you might look at my story and say, "well I was never going to do any of that so that was a waste of time."

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Written by Dawn Chloe (Injection Arc) on 2025-01-21 at 16:34

@DelphineUnseen Yes please, whatever you’re comfortable sharing. Either here or you can use my Signal - GhostSpider.72

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Written by Delphine is doing hir best on 2025-01-21 at 16:37

@Dawn I'll reach out on Signal!

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Written by JoAnne (Stormgren) on 2025-01-21 at 17:21

@Dawn Ooof. That's a lot.

The biggest thing I had to learn, even prior to transition, is making sure I was treating my needs as just as important as anyone else's.

I'm just glad you're choosing to fight for it.

Also here if you need it.

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Written by Sasha :verifiedtransbian: on 2025-01-21 at 20:32

@Dawn Oh my goodness, this is terrible :people_hugging_purple:

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