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Written by Giant on 2023-10-07 at 19:51

My son moved out yesterday, and it's funny how different it feels over here already. Anyways, he's super excited, and I'm happy for him. Turns out, he's a great guy, and all credit to him for doing the work; it's rough out there rn. But I'm honored to have been able to help him get going. Here's a couple things I did to help:

I worked with him to make a plan. Basically, asked him to think about how he's going to eat in our capitalist hellscape. Get mad, work to change the system, protest, riot, all that. But what's the plan to survive the system while you do. He decided he wanted to join the IBEW and do an apprenticeship. It took a long time to get that going. Years.

In the meantime, every month since he stopped going to school, he put up an amount roughly equivalent to what he would pay in rent somewhere, and I held it to give back when he got his own place. We treated this as an obligation. Not optional. There was some conflict about this, for sure. Anyways, It's been a few years, so it amounted to a good chunk; I gave it all to him this morning, and now he's set up way better than I was when I started.

But the main thing about all of that, is that he did it. It was all his idea, and he did all the work. I just facilitated and maybe coached a bit. He now has the lived experience of making a plan and executing it over an extended period. I believe it will serve him well.

Good luck, little buddy!

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