On twitter I once replied on a big account's post about men's mental health that if any man wanted a compliment that they could reply and I would compliment them.
Hundreds of replies started coming in from all kinds of different people.
Every single responder I researched their account and tried to find something nice to say about that person.
Can I compliment their physical appearance in a photo? Can I compliment an action they took or something they said on the platform?
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And with some of those it really wasn't easy. There were people responding who I wouldn't usually want much to do with and who would not have been kind to me if they'd met me in most other contexts. But regardless the point was to give everyone a chance so I pressed on where it was difficult and wouldn't otherwise have really wanted to compliment those people.
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But there were some accounts I still think about that were even worse. Their entire online presence consisted of ironic facades and hate. I pored over these accounts looking for something good. I spent days pondering them. Thinking about them as I went to work on the bus or shopping.
And to this day I don't know what they expected or imagined I might say? I ended up so angry and sad with some of them I told them as much. Others I just felt I had to "overlook".
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It's heartbreaking to think that there are men just walking around out there being the most awful people possible, probably as a shield to stop anybody truly saying something about their core that could hurt them, but also that they're desperate for just a tiny bit of kindness that nobody can find a way to show to them because not only can they not stop hurting others, but that they can't even demonstrate a single other thing about themselves.
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@zeska Now ask yourself why this only applies to men.
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@RickiTarr is that a request to talk about gender dynamics? I'll happily talk about that with you, just wanted to check first.
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