Ancestors

Written by Doc Impossible on 2025-01-23 at 02:23

I've had a rough couple of days on social media.

I commented some comfort for a trans gal on tiktok recovering from top surgery, and she took the opportunity to blast what I'd said about my boobs all over her feed. I've been getting cis men asking for pics ever since. She's done nothing to moderate the comments.

I asked for help musing about writing yesterday, and on Bluesky I got torn asunder by some random trans people who basically made shit up about what I'd said, insulted me personally, and harassed me until I took it down.

I posted a reminder for folks that the carrier oil in injectable hormones goes bad, and that using it outside of the safety window can be dangerous. I'd missed that the carrier oils varied so much by happenstance--I've been on e cyp, just not the appropriate brand of e cyp to learn this--and someone took it on themselves to hound me even after I pulled the thread down as I put in a shitload of work to try and get information, both from her and through other venues, to verify what she was saying in between the insults.

And for clarity: don't fucking go looking for any of these people or I'll block your ass in an instant. Who they are is not relevant. They could've just been having bad days.

But this is by way of saying:

I'm taking a social media break. I don't know how long it's gonna last. I'm feeling real fucking sore right now.

And regardless of whether it's a bad day thing or it's legit maliciousness, members of this fucking community need to think twice about how they treat each other, because it's been ✨years✨ since a transphobe treated me as badly as I was treated by trans people this week.

And fucking Trump got inaugurated on Monday.

So like

Reflect on that.

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Written by Joscelyn Transpiring on 2025-01-23 at 03:06

@Impossible_PhD One of my missions is to make sure we have fewer orphan elephants in the next generations coming up. This is still such a problem and it feels even more crazy-making because all the conversations that were had 2018 - 2020 about this have evaporated into the ether.

It's frustrating and exhausting to have to continuously mother a whole new generation of trans people...but this is the world we live in until enough of us are out here to carry this work together. But let me clarify this point: this is work I've taken on personally as a mission and career - you do not owe this to anyone. You are doing what is your strength. Just spelling out the above to remind those of us that do have the capacity and it's our lane to do to keep picking up the work of bringing our baby transes into actual relationship and compassion within our community because our work will keep re-emerging over and over and over again.

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Written by Joscelyn Transpiring on 2025-01-23 at 03:08

@Impossible_PhD Also, I'm realizing you're hitting the 4 - 5 year mark...it is a good time to be exhausted and give yourself space for you and your blossoming. You can shift to the back foot for a month, a year, or years. You have given and I know you will come back around to give again. But for now, please rest and care for you and yours. And know I'm here to provide care when you need it 🫂

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Written by Doc Impossible on 2025-01-23 at 03:28

@JoscelynTransient honestly? The community that welcomed me feels like it's dying or dead. I've been fighting against this fucking tide, but people want purity these days, and they're knives-out ready to attack anyone who isn't sufficiently perfect for them.

Feeding person after person to the metaphorical woodchipper. Because it makes them feel superior.

It's the tools of our fucking enemies, the tools of white supremacy, and they're taking them up gleefully. Angela Davis warned us in the fucking 80s, and none of us fucking listen.

And we wonder why there's basically no Black trans folks in our spaces. THIS IS FUCKING IT. White people doing this shit.

Fuck.

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Toot

Written by Joscelyn Transpiring on 2025-01-23 at 04:17

@Impossible_PhD Just curious, where are you seeing this loss of community? Is it on here? Or other platforms? Kinda curious as a temperature check since i don’t go near Reddit and a lot of other spaces.

And honestly, part of what is likely going on is he turnover that happens over and over and over again in our online communities.

Don’t know if you remember me talking about it like…I think a year and a half ago?…but it’s been palpable to me the absence and loss of us pre-2020 folks, especially the ones that shaped my earliest online connections in 2017 and 2018. This churn has been going on over and over again - and I think it’s hitting the pandemic cohort now. What you and others want/need from these spaces has gone down a lot as you come into your self and life, and a lot of folks will check out and disappear from online to just live their lives now. This has been compounded as so many online platforms have become threats to us.

This is why you all didn’t have that many experienced voices in place in 2020. And why many of those that supported and inspired me have withdrawn. Like I said, I’m committed to staying in and giving and enduring the backlashes…but I get paid to do that and it’s my primary endeavor. You don’t need to carry that and it’s okay to step back. 💜

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Descendants

Written by Doc Impossible on 2025-01-23 at 10:57

@JoscelynTransient Bluesky is worst rn, but yeah, reddit too. And here, just not as loudly.

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