Ancestors

Written by like jam or bootlaces on 2025-01-12 at 14:38

Type of cis white guy who looks around at all the people very much like himself, realizes they are assholes, and then makes the leap straight over

"maybe people like me should stop being assholes in this particular way"

into the depths of

"I should be such an asshole to the people I'm still one tiny step away from that somehow people won't notice that I ever was that kind of asshole"

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Written by like jam or bootlaces on 2025-01-12 at 14:40

Seriously, if you want to help, help yourself first.

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Written by like jam or bootlaces on 2025-01-12 at 14:44

Unless you understand how you got that way, and what the path away from that looks like, what do you honestly think you have to offer anyone still trapped inside?

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Toot

Written by like jam or bootlaces on 2025-01-12 at 14:50

I'm having my own trouble saying this that it has taken me a few toots to work my way around to it:

To be effective you have to have compassion.

To do that, you have to forgive yourself first.

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Descendants

Written by like jam or bootlaces on 2025-01-12 at 15:30

"but I don't want to help them, I want to help everyone else"

You can do some of both. Maybe.

Indeed, you are uniquely positioned to help everyone else by improving the understanding and behavior of the people you are so ready to leave behind.

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