what we want: "queers and allies" spaces.
what people keep offering: "women and nonbinary people" spaces.
folks, I am an agender trans-feminine person. I do not pass. I have no interest in passing. passing is not a privilege I am afforded as a disabled person. I will not be welcome in "women and nonbinary people" spaces because I am not effeminate in the ways that they expect people to be. I am fat. I have hairy lower arms & legs. I have a great bald spot on the top of my head.
excluding men does not make queer spaces safer, because men are not inherently dangerous and because there are dangerous women and dangerous nonbinary people. you need to create spaces that welcomes queer people and allies, because you are just as incapable of clocking trans people as the radical feminists.
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also, by focusing on types of people rather than on harmful actions, we create opportunities for those actions to be performed by 'acceptable' people. this allows continued victimisation and for abusers to exist in putatively safe spaces without being held accountable, because clearly they can't be abusers by virtue of not being a man.
which is of course complete nonsense.
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